A Heart Made Whole

Jeffery, (not his real name) came to me for help when he was in the midst of extreme emotional angst and marital discord. This was Jeffery's second marriage. Jeffery and his current wife had been separated multiple times. He endured roller coaster emotions as his current wife continued to want to leave him. Jeffery's first marriage was with a woman who suffered from alcoholism.

In just a few sessions, Jeffery learned the connection between his pattern with emotionally unavailable women and his emotionally unavailable parents. His Dad had left when Jeffery was a small child, and his Mother suffered from the emotional mood swings of bi-polar disorder.

As a child, Jeffery felt alone. Jeffery became terrified of abandonment. As he grew into adulthood, Jeffery developed many skills to keep himself from being abandoned. His fear, however, was always there, and he continued to unconsciously select emotionally unavailable, abandoning partners.

I saw him once in a full blown panic attack at the thought of his second wife not wanting him anymore.These panic attacks had become commonplace for Jeffery. Jeffery connected with the small, frightened child in his heart, re-parented him to bring the child love, security and safety. The panic attacks stopped. Jeffery accepted his wife's unavailability, accepted the divorce and went on to rebuild his life. Jeffery is now in a loving supportive relationship. He accomplished this in just 7 months! Jeffery had made his heart whole.

Make it come to you

“Some say go for it. I say make it come to you.” Garfield

I like to think of using tools for Conscious Creating to be like riding on an air mattress on top of the water. To live your life efforting, trying, manipulating, stressing and winding up out of the flow, exhausted and with results that are minimal and not lasting is like swimming underwater in the moss. When you are on top of the water, you will glide through your life in joy and with ease.
I once spotted a beautiful heron on the other side of a fairly small lake. I wanted to go see the pretty bird. I hopped on the air mattress and away I went. In a short period of time, I was on the other side of the lake, gazing at the bird. If I had tried to swim it, I would have been out there for hours. I realized that day that we are at choice about whether we use what is available to us spiritually and create our lives with empowerment and ease, or whether we struggle.

In using the tools of affirmations, opening our hearts, staying focused on solutions and living in gratitude, we are consciously making choices about the outcomes we desire. In just a few minutes per day, we can determine what we want for ourselves that day, affirm those outcomes with the power of the spoken word, and with our hearts open, watch it unfold as we are nudged via our intuition as to any steps that we need to take to do our part. Having successful results really is this simple and easy!

Hop on board the air mattress! The water is fine!