Wednesday, October 14, 2009

For the Good of the Whole

It was raining and I was arriving at Las Colinas Country Club a few minutes later than I had planned. As I drove toward the valet parking, I had the idea of removing my keys and replacing them with my valet key that was stored in my wallet. I thought and even said out loud, "NO! I refuse to live my life in paranoia, thinking that some valet guy is going to take my house key and make a copy of it and then proceed to break into my home. NO!I refuse to see that in my world! My house is safe. It has always been safe!"

I learned later that the message to use the valet key wasn't for my benefit.

I attended a lovely gala, and when I went back to retrieve my car, the valet had trouble locating my keys. I said, "I drive a Silver Lexus. The key ring is the one that has the metal thing on it that says, 'I love to be hugged.'" "Oh yes; here they are" he said.

When I arrived home, I took my keys out of the ignition and thought there sure were a lot of keys on my keyring. I examined them to see what was happening. A whole bunch of keys along with a Nissan key-less entry device was hooked onto my keyring by some Fleur-delis decoration. I tried and tried and couln't untangle the two sets of keys.

I called the country club and was unable to locate a live person. I knew that someone was going to be leaving that event and would be distraught that their keys were nowhere to be found. Next I called 3 people that I personally knew that were at the gala. All three calls resulted in reaching their voice mail.

It was late and I was tired. I thought about driving all the way back out there but decided it wasn't my mistake and I wasn't going to be the one to pay the price. True, it wasn't my mistake, but also true that I could have headed the whole situation off at the pass by listening to my intuitive message.

The next day I called the country club and learned that the Nissan owners had been driven home by the country club staff. I was relieved to hear this, since I really did have to own my part in the mishap. There had apparently been quite a hub bub about the missing keys. I knew that, had I listened, the entire experience would have been different for everyone.

What I was reminded of that night was the importance of following my guidance. It might be for the good of the whole.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Are you Listening?

Flight to Santa Fe

It was August, l985 and just a few weeks after the Delta flight had gone down in a horrendous Texas thunderstorm north of DFW Airport. I received an Invitation to fly to Santa Fe, New Mexico in September for a 3-day weekend. The trip sounded like fun.

Before I made a commitment, I wanted to check it out with my intuition to be sure the trip would be safe, and that I was supposed to be going. I had trained myself to have the ability to obtain a “yes” or “no” answer with clarity from my intuition.
To do this, I first get centered. I affirm that I am one with the All-Knowing. Then I release any attachment that I might have to the answer that I will receive. This part is an absolute necessity, as sometimes God has a plan bigger and better for us than what we can currently see. Then I pose the question.

I feel my oneness with the All-Knowing. Usually if the answer is “no”, I will feel closed up inside, and darkness will fill my vision. Sometimes, I will hear the word “No.”. When the answer is “yes”, I will feel light inside, light will fill my vision, and sometimes I will hear the word, “yes”.

In this case, I asked, “Is it for my highest and best good to go to Santa Fe on September 8, l985, on such and so flight at 4 p.m.” I felt light inside, fun and joyfulness, and my field of vision looked bright. It was a definite “yes”.

When we left for the airport, it was one of those gorgeous September days that we have here in Texas. The sun was shining brightly, and it was about 85 degrees. We arrived at the airport, checked our bags, and went over to the window to watch the planes taking off and landing.

To my shock, the sky had turned totally black. It began to thunder and lightening, and it was raining cats and dogs. It was one of those typical violent Texas thunderstorms that seem to roll in out of nowhere. All at the airport had the memory of that Delta flight that had gone down, and the terror that ran through the airport was phenomenal!

I moved into doubt, and then into fear. I began to wonder, am I in trouble? Was I not clear that I was supposed to take this flight? I excused myself to be alone for a few minutes to get re- centered. I asked again, “Is it to my highest good to take this flight today?” The answer was, again, yes.

By the time I got back to the window and to my friend, the clouds were gone, the rain had stopped, and the sun was shining again.

We had an absolutely lovely flight, a wonderful trip, I had the honor of seeing 2 light beings guarding the door of my hotel room while I was sleeping, and I had a spiritual experience of trusting my knowing that I shall remember for the rest of my life.

The message: When you listen to what you know, you are always empowered, confident and certain!

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Mailbox-Be Careful What you Ask for; You will get it

The Mailbox -- Be careful what you ask for – you will get it.

Some years ago, I received a notice that my neighborhood was going to mandatory curbside mailboxes. The notice said that if I had it installed then, there would be no charge; if I waited I would have to pay for the installation. I wasn’t about to spend money to pay for something that I didn’t want in the first place, so I went for the free installation.
I wasn’t happy about this change. Because of the abundant foliage on my property, I was not able to see when the postal carrier put the little red flag down, so I didn’t know when my mail had arrived. If it were raining, it was a hassle to get the mail. I felt like a victim because I didn’t WANT the mailbox there.
In visiting with my postal carrier, I found out that in fact it was NOT mandatory to have curbside mail delivery, but that now that the curbside mailbox had been installed, I was on a post office list of those with curbside mail delivery. I had been lied to and I was angry! I was tempted to have my handyman, Carlos, come after dark with his truck, wrap a chain around it and pull the mailbox, post, concrete and all out of the ground. Carlos was reluctant to go along with my game plan. I put a tremendous amount of energy around wanting that mailbox gone.
One morning I noticed that the mailbox was lying on the ground. Apparently, some bored or ill-directed teenagers had taken baseball bats to some mailboxes in the neighborhood. While my property is always safe because of the thoughts that I hold, the mailbox was definitely not in that force field of protection, and it got hit. I was able to place the mailbox back on the post and, while not secure, it held on unless there was a high wind.
May of 2000, a tornado traveled a mile north of my home and then turned and traveled a mile east of my home. The winds were horrendous. The sound was unforgettable. I sat in meditation, and was assured that I was safe.
The next morning I went outside to assess damage. Everything was fine except that the mailbox was gone. I walked the yard. No mailbox. I walked up and down the street. No mailbox. I saw a postal carrier and described my situation. The postal carried assured me that they don’t have a list of those designated to have curbside mail delivery. That list stays at the post office. I told her that I still had my old mailbox by my front door. She assured me that it was just fine to use it.
I stood there with my jaw dropped, thinking about what a huge amount of energy I had put on wanting that mailbox off my property, the tons of energy I had expended being angry that I had let the situation occur, even being willing to considering resorting to involve dear Carlos in a clandestine ruse to solve my problem. I stood there astonished that the solution was really so simple.
I guess that a carload of teenagers with a baseball bat, followed by a tornado, was one way to get what I wanted! We don’t know “how” our desires will come to fruition. We just need to keep focused on “what” we want and know that the changes will come. Some seeds take longer to sprout than others. Be patient.
After the great news from the postal carrier, Carlos got the chainsaw and cut the post to the ground. It was a happy day.

Friday, July 17, 2009

"Was it really about me?"

Was it really about me?

There are breakthroughs and there are breakdowns in learning to take charge of our lives.
I had run an ad in a woman's publication some months ago. When I didn't receive response to the ad, I checked with two clients of mine who had ads running in the publication. Both told me that they had not experienced good response from their ads. I assumed that my lack of response was about the publication and had nothing at all to do with me.

Then the magazine editor mentioned to me that people in the helping professions typically did quite well with their ads in the magazine. I pondered why I had not received a similar response. It dawned on me that not even one time in all those months had I affirmed the success of the ad. Not even one time had I "put it out there" that people who needed my help would be drawn to the ad and would connect with me. I was shocked at this realization. I had placed the ad, paid the money, and done nothing else.

I sat in my meditation room with the magazine open to my ad. I affirmed that the ad would be a beacon of light, shining out to those people who needed my help, who would be a joy to work with and who had the money to pay for my coaching services.

Within just hours, my phone began to ring. "I saw your ad in the women's magazine" caller after caller said. I sat there, taking the calls, in amazement that I had forgotten such a simple step.

Are there areas where you are being complacent, allowing life to happen to you or are you taking charge and enjoying YOU happening to life?

I encourage you to take just a few seconds and say out loud what you would like to see show up in your world. Make a list of the areas of your life where you would like to see the energy shift from stuck to flowing. Speak your word once a day, seeing it already happening. Watch your thoughts during the day to be sure you are staying on track with what you have chosen, keeping your thoughts in positive, determined, directed mode. Then watch as life unfolds to fulfill your vision. What a fun process! It really was about me.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Let's let it be Easy!

I recently reconnected with an old friend, Rev. Marty Bacher. While visiting, Rev. Marty reminded me of something that I had said to him in 1994 when I was assisting him start a new church in the area. Rev. Marty said that he would never forget my words, "Marty, let's let this be easy!"

I needed that reminder. We are all so bombarded via email and Internet with the activities of hordes of people living their dream. I had begun to feel overwhelmed by the possibilities of connecting with others to get my message out.

I then had an experience that would forever change my life. I have a very green thumb, or maybe, as a friend once said, "Joy you don't have a green thumb, you have a green body!" I had planted a pomegranate tree at the corner of my patio. A few months later I turned the patio into a greenhouse. As the little tree grew, holes were made for it to be able to exit through the fiberglass roof. When the tree grew to over 20 feet tall, I began to encounter an issue. There were electrical lines going beside the tree, and it was so huge that the trimming of the branches began to be an ongoing thing.

One day I noticed that the branches were once again touching the wires. I thought, "Man I just had those trimmed in April." I didn't want to deal with it so I ignored it. Bad move.

We had 70 mph winds come through in a storm. The branches put so much weight on the electrical wires that the housing connected to the electric meter was at a 45 degree angle instead of being vertical. Thank goodness it didn't rip the wires right out of the meter!

I apologized to the tree and told the tree that it was time for it to become mulch. I called the man whose crew helps me take care of my trees. They were supposed to come on a Sunday afternoon. No crew. I called the crew, and was told they would be there the next day. No crew the next day. This went on and on and I was getting frustrated, judgmental, and negative about the whole thing. 12 phone calls, 3 days, and still I had branches on my electrical wires. Every time the wind blew I felt nervous and was in angst.

Then I remembered the "Let's let it be easy" wisdom. I went into my quiet space and realized that I had gotten embroiled in a power struggle about this tree. I simply opened my heart and visualized the tree being gone in love and joy and ease.

About an hour later, I was 5 minutes away from leaving for an appointment, and the crew showed up. No forcing, no "I am going to make this happen." They just showed up. They removed the branches and all was well.

I was left with a valuable lesson. When I find myself in a power struggle with a situation, I can only create discomfort. I am not in the flow. It is my job to hold the intention for what it is that I desire, and then relax, release and let go.

When I continue to affirm "Let it be easy" I remember that my job is to hold the intention. All the pieces will fall into place at the proper time and in the best possible way.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Being "in" the world but not "of" the world

This morning I found myself having thoughts that, if manifested, would not take me where I want to be. I know that thoughts create. What was I thinking? How did I allow myself to start to wash down a river of fear and negativity? How did I move out of gratitude? I know better than that? I had allowed myself to mentally and emotionally link up with the current group agreement (in the world) of fear and lack.

How easily we can shift from what we need to be thinking to create our world the way we want it to be, to thoughts that are going around in the world.

I once heard a story about a group of psychics that assembled in order to find a missing child. Throughout the night, the predictions grew more and more horrifying. The worse the stories became, the worse the stories became. The psychics had moved into group agreement and had lost their center. They had lost sight of their own knowing.
The child was found the next day, safe and sound. I heard this story many decades ago, and it made quite an impression on me about the value of staying with my own knowing, regardless of what is going on around me.

More than at any time that I can recall in my life, the world is being challenged economically. If we move into group agreement, and begin to focus on the challenge rather than the solution, we will sink into the negative darkness. What good can come from that?

I wonder what would happen if everyone on this Earth began to affirm prosperity, and enough for all.

I think it takes 100% conviction and commitment to stay with what I know. I can tell countless stories about other times in my life when the seemingly impossible occurred. When we stay open to it, that open door allows the good to enter.

When we stay determined to rise above what is going on around us, we will shine. That seems to me to be a great place to be.

Simple solution: Decide what I want, make a 100% commitment to be there, hold true to my intention no matter what, and reap the rewards. Tune out the thoughts and words of others around you. Hold true to your vision.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Embracing Change

Wise words: Don't be sad that it is over. Be glad that it happened!
I cleaned out my garage this weekend and came across quite an array of camping gear that dated back to when my sons were still little boys. I thought about all the great times we had on the beach, in the woods, and in the water. I wondered if I would have chilled out with them more if I had known how busy they would become as young men. As I looked at the camping gear, I remembered how close we were and the great hugs and conversations that we shared. I shed a few tears. Then I thought about the many blessings that they now bring to me and to the world as young men. I felt the pride of knowing I had sent them off into the world with open hearts and wise minds, with self confidence and a life viewpoint that would take them to great joys and accomplishment.

Every day is a new day. Life brings change. Change IS the one constant thing in life, isn't it?
Even a beautiful sunset fades and gives way to the sparkling stars in the night sky.

So it is with all things in life: relationships, a vacation, a great holiday, even segments of our lives.
What I have come to realize is the importance of embracing change. When something is over, the key is to look forward with great and positive expectancy. We may not know what is coming next, but we must know that it will be something good.

I have seen so many people who attempt to move forward in their lives, but they do so with one foot still in "what was" and looking over their shoulder toward the past. Their energy is spent on wishing it wasn't over. They may be stuck in regret or in blaming. They may be angry.

My advice: Accept that it is over. Grieve a bit if need be, and do it knowing that the grief will pass quickly. Now ask yourself, "What's next?" Go create something wonderful to be your "what's next!" Embrace change. Keep your heart open and expect wonderful things to come your way. When you do, it will surely come easily and swiftly.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Turning 60!

On May 20th I completed 60 revolutions around the sun. For many months before my birthday, I had been doing a life review. Where have I been for 6 decades? What have I been doing? What have I accomplished? Have I really done anything with my life. Of course my questioning, while normal, was ludicrous. I have raised 2 totally amazing boys to become young men who are having an incredibly positive influence in our world. I have, as a Life Success Coach and Spiritual teacher, helped thousands of people along their way.
My hormones were a bit off and I was seeing my life through a lens that was cloudy. All I could see was that what I had done was not enough. I could have done more. I did things wrong. How could I be so dense, etc.
Then after many months of self judgment, the energy shifted. My eldest son, Sunny, called me on Mother's Day. He and his precious wife Tisha were out of town for that weekend. My youngest son was not available either. There I was alone on Mother's Day. Why can't I have a normal family, I pondered.
When Sunny asked me how I am, suddenly it hit me. I am how I focus.
My boys and their wives love me and I love them dearly. I have prepared them for their awesome journey through life. The truth was that the flow for that day was to spend some time with nature and then work on the book that is almost completed. It was a gorgeous day. I have an awesome purpose. I answered Sunny, "I am how I decide to be. It really is that simple, isn't it." He responded, "Yep, it is Mom." I began then to shift my focus from the challenges and the lack to what wonderful things I have going on in my life. I felt my energy lift. I was glad to be me and I was glad to be alive.
I was ready to become 60 and embrace this new decade of my life.
Joy