On May 20th I completed 60 revolutions around the sun. For many months before my birthday, I had been doing a life review. Where have I been for 6 decades? What have I been doing? What have I accomplished? Have I really done anything with my life. Of course my questioning, while normal, was ludicrous. I have raised 2 totally amazing boys to become young men who are having an incredibly positive influence in our world. I have, as a Life Success Coach and Spiritual teacher, helped thousands of people along their way.
My hormones were a bit off and I was seeing my life through a lens that was cloudy. All I could see was that what I had done was not enough. I could have done more. I did things wrong. How could I be so dense, etc.
Then after many months of self judgment, the energy shifted. My eldest son, Sunny, called me on Mother's Day. He and his precious wife Tisha were out of town for that weekend. My youngest son was not available either. There I was alone on Mother's Day. Why can't I have a normal family, I pondered.
When Sunny asked me how I am, suddenly it hit me. I am how I focus.
My boys and their wives love me and I love them dearly. I have prepared them for their awesome journey through life. The truth was that the flow for that day was to spend some time with nature and then work on the book that is almost completed. It was a gorgeous day. I have an awesome purpose. I answered Sunny, "I am how I decide to be. It really is that simple, isn't it." He responded, "Yep, it is Mom." I began then to shift my focus from the challenges and the lack to what wonderful things I have going on in my life. I felt my energy lift. I was glad to be me and I was glad to be alive.
I was ready to become 60 and embrace this new decade of my life.
Joy
Friday, May 22, 2009
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Dr. Joy,
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday! While I haven't met you in person, I feel your presence daily as I have the privilege of being business partners with Sunny. Thanks in part to your influence, Sunny has "paid it forward" by positively impacting not only my life, but also the lives of most everyone he encounters. Thank you for that!
I really enjoyed your blog. I wish you many years of deciding to have joyful and fulfilling days.
Randy Eisenman
Joy! It was so awesome to be a part of the Birthday event and even better to see your blogging now!
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Mike McLean
Hi Joy!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great column in your new blog! I'll en"joy" this very much. I was with you in spirit back in the winter but have shaken my funk now with spring and the market improvement. So let's go get 'em!
Take care. Lunch?
Charla
Happy Blog and Happy 60, Joy! Sometimes it's hard to see the positive impact we have on those around us, but if you ever doubt it, I am living proof of the positive impact you have and the valuable gifts your insight and caring provide to those around you!
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Terry V.
Hi Joy, Of course the one I missed was the big 60! The 25+ yrs of knowing you has flown by so quickly. As a mentor and a friend, your courage and love of life have impacted me greatly. Just wait-----the best is yet to come. Maybe someday you too can have 7 grandchildren to buy Christmas for. LOL
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Terry P.
Joy,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this major tranition in your life, and thanks for being honest enough to tell us that your life also has its peaks and valleys. The key is how we respond when we wander down to the low parts of the valleys.
Your 60 years has been a blessing to humankind. Now how about another 60?
Best wishes,
J. F. Brown
Your counseling is great and when in your sessions, one knows they are loved. Thanks for the work in the past. Lisa
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